Leave me on a desserted island with nothing but a pen and a piece of paper; with those, I shall create myself another world.

Friday, September 2, 2011

[HBBC - 1] Love "You" and Be Loved In Return

Welcome to The Half-Baked Bloggers Consortium‘s (HBBC) first post, where NemaMaha Mohamed,Ammar Al-MajaliRana SafiMaryamYara HaniNoha HanafyNoor Al ZubaidyNouran ZiadNoor El terkSalima Al MasrouriMariam TarekSara AmrYasmine FayezRania Khaled,Engi AminIbhogHagar Haggag, Abeer Zaki, Yomna Arbad, Salma M San, My Essam and I voice our opinions about a weekly topic chosen by any HBBC member. This weekend’s topic is Self-love, chosen by Nema. Please take the time to view their blogs just like you viewed mine in order to get different perspectives on the same topic. 

Topic of the day- 

No matter how much we claim that we don't care about people's opinions, there's always this little part at the back of our heads wondering how people will respond to certain behaviors, incidents in our life, a haircut or even an outfit we're wearing. We wonder if we will fit in with our looks and words, if we will belong...if we will be liked and loved. And I'm not referring to the boy-girl love people think the term is bound to. Love that exists between friends and family has been obviously forgotten but it's still there you know. So, let me speak for all forms and shapes of love. And please allow me to say that, if you do not love yourself, nobody will ever love you.

Think about if someone talks to you endlessly about a pair of horrible shoes, for instance; when you finally see the shoes, you're going to find it very difficult to see good in them even if they are classy pencil heels that will make you look taller and adjust your posture to a confident and feminine one rather than the slouched casual everyday look you're so sick of. You will see the shoes through the other person's eyes so no matter how good they are, they will always be just a little bit damaged in your sight now.

People see you through your own eyes. Your insecurities can shape your facial features. Your lack of confidence shows in your eyes that move around looking for what you think you do not have. Your poor self-esteem is bouncing around midst the circle of friends talking oh-so-confidently while you stand gaping, unsure of whether you should include yourself in the conversation or if people won't think you're smart or funny enough.

People see that. People see you not liking yourself enough and eventually, they think the same of you as you think of yourself. And why wouldn't they? Why would someone like who you are if you, yourself, do not like who you are..?! 

Learn to love yourself. Seriously, no one is more worthy of being loved than YOU. No one will ever look out for you more than yourself. People come and go, even family. People move away, lose touch or (God Forbid) pass away. Only you remain with yourself until the very end of your journey in life. From beginning to end.

So, love yourself! Learn to have fun ON YOUR OWN rather than making your happiness dependent on someone who may or may not be there. Learn to enjoy your own company because if you don't, why on earth would anyone enjoy yours?!


Maha said...

I like your perspective so much. It's absolutely true that our insecurities can shadow us if we show them. I have a friend who writes but always says stuff like "I don't like this story I wrote" before reading it to me. This makes me have a negative first impression about it that is pretty hard to get rid of even when it is completely untrue.

Knee said...

I really like how warm this was, like ze2red's post (Sara Amr) it made me feel like I'm reading about myself bgad. Part of the beauty in growing up is realizing how we're all the same person from the inside, but we fail to show this to others even if it'll make both sides feel less alone.
Lovely post sweet =)
Write on~

Yara Hani said...

Maha, thank you so much! And yes, it really is true. It's like this impression has been embedded within you and its hard to rid yourself of it despite of whether it is true or not.

Yara Hani said...

Nema, thank you so much hun =] I'm glad you were able to relate <3